Child Anxiety Disorder

All children experience some feelings of anxiety and stress. These feelings are usually temporary and the child doesn’t suffer any lasting ramifications from them. But today, one out of eight children suffers from chronic child anxiety disorder and need help to deal with those feelings.

Growing up in today’s world is full of stress. There’s so much more to learn in school, media stories about violence against children, competition to get into prestigious colleges, find a job and “fit in.” Children need to develop skills early on to help them cope with life’s pitfalls and hurdles.

Your child may have an anxiety disorder if they manifest some of the following behaviour patterns:

· Headaches and other aches and pains that make them want to miss school or skip events where they might need to interact with others.

· Rapid heartbeats that cause the child to panic.

· Frequent stomach aches and vomiting.

· Worries about everything.

· Frequent temper tantrums.

There are many other ways that your child might show symptoms of stress and anxiety, but know that any pattern of behaviour that becomes problematic needs to be examined and addressed. The best way to accomplish that is to have the child diagnosed by your doctor.

The good news is that child anxiety disorders can be managed. Children can learn skills to face fears and calm themselves if they panic or have feelings of anxiety. In severe cases, there is medication to help children get over stress and anxiety. Parents can be the ultimate way that children learn coping skills by being good role models in the home.

Talk to your child and reassure them that everyone suffers from anxiety and panic at certain times and that anxiety itself won’t harm him in any way, even though it feels horrible when it’s happening. Help your child learn and practice coping skills that will help next time a situation threatens to bring on a panic or anxiety attack.

Stress and anxiety can be more difficult to cope with if the child has chronic ear infections, anemia, allergies or another disorder such as bulimia or anorexia. Make sure you have your child checked out by your health care provider if you suspect any of these symptoms.

Sometimes a child anxiety disorder may not manifest itself in disruptive behaviour. Often a child can be obedient and quiet and the disorder may not catch the attention of teachers or even parents. Anxiety that’s never detected may cause other problems such as depression and panic attacks when the child reaches adulthood.

If you notice any change in your child’s behaviour or if he or she becomes withdrawn or displays any of the other symptoms we discussed, seek a diagnosis. Chances are you can treat the child by helping them face their fears and develop self-esteem that will help them now – and throughout their lives.

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How to Help a Child With Anxiety

Childhood anxiety can turn into a formidable disorder if it’s not addressed when it happens and a plan put into place to turn it around and make the child feel more confident and safe.

Helping children deal with feelings of anxiety also helps them to deal with life problems. Each problem they face and every skill they learn will serve them well if they conquered the anxiety they faced. Knowing they can overcome problems by developing skills and facing challenges head on builds their self-confidence and lets them experience success.

The first step in helping your child conquer an anxiety issue is to understand that such fears are normal – especially in children. You’ll notice anxiety with babies, toddlers, school-age and even high school and college age children.

Anxieties may be different at every age, but they’re real and as children grow up, they’ll manifest their fears in various ways. Babies might cry when you leave them, school-age children may cry at being away from you in a new setting and teens might fear being on their own and making their own decisions in a “peer pressured” world.

You can help your children develop the coping skills they’ll need by remaining calm and focusing on the problem at hand. Here are a few things you can do to help:

· Talk to your child about how fearful they truly are. For example, a pre-schooler may be traumatized by you leaving him at school, but excited about having so much play time with other children. Ask him if he’s happy that he’ll get to play with toys and with other children. Also, try and familiarize him with the school and other children there before leaving him.

· Be extremely gentle when helping children cope with an anxiety issue. For example, if your child seems fearful of having the light turned off in his room at night, talk to him and join him in searching every crevice and corner in the room to reassure him that everything is normal. A nightlight might help the transition too.

· Encourage the child to talk about his fears and anxious feelings. Don’t demean your child by dismissing those fears. Addressing the child’s concerns and working with him to overcome them can dispel fears he may have.

· Don’t give in to your child’s fears. Giving in only makes the fear seem more real. Make sure the child knows that you understand why he feels as he does, but be firm about the outcome.

· Be a role model. One strategy for helping children cope with anxiety is to let them see how you cope. If you react in panic mode when you’re late for work, the child will think that’s a normal reaction. But, if you react to your anxiety with a positive attitude and say things like, “I have to get up earlier next time,” the child will learn those coping techniques.

When a child is old enough to reason with, you may want to teach him deep breathing and visualization techniques. Each fear that your child overcomes will help him overcome challenges later in life.

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Separation Anxiety In a Child

Every parent dreads leaving a child at day care, school or with family and friends if they’re throwing a temper tantrum or crying like her heart is broken. Know that separation anxiety in a child is very common – especially when a baby reaches the toddler stage – although some children experience anxiety sooner than others.

Knowing how to cope with these behaviour patterns is key to relieving your angst about the separation. You’ll also be better able to help your child cope with her anxiety. Understanding why separation anxiety occurs is the first step to coping with the problem.

First you need to know that a child has no concept of time. When you leave, she doesn’t know when or if you’re coming back. She simply knows that you’re gone and she misses you because you’re ordinarily a “permanent” existence in her life.

Childhood separation anxiety can happen when a new situation occurs in a child’s life. Changing a childcare provider, introducing a new brother or sister, going to school or moving to another home might all trigger separation anxiety behavior in children.

There are strategies that may work to calm a child and reassure her when she experiences separation anxiety:

· Don’t prolong the agony. Hesitating when leaving a child with a caregiver will make her perceive that she’s “winning.” Speak calmly to the child and the caregiver and then say your goodbyes.

· Ensure that the child is comfortable. Never leave a hungry, wet, dirty, sick, sleepy or tired child with a new caregiver. The child is already uncomfortable and it’s not a good time to bring in a new person or place.

· Let the child get to know the caregiver. If possible, invite the caregiver to your home a few times and let your child become acquainted with him or her before leaving. If you’re placing the child in a new daycare center, visit the facility a few times, let her play and become familiar with the place.

· Keep your promises. When the child is old enough to understand, let her know that you’ll pick her up just after nap time (for example). For younger children, remain calm and positive. Tell the child you are leaving and will be back. Then, keep the promise to help develop confidence in the child that you’ll be back.

If possible, leave your child with a chosen caregiver for brief time periods so that she can become familiar with the routine and gain assurance that you truly will return. Ask your caregiver to please distract the child with toys or something else of interest as you leave.

The time that a child experiences separation anxiety varies. Some carry anxieties into the early years of school and others begin to adjust during the toddler stage. There may be a deeper cause for the anxiety if the child develops more troubling reactions.

Find out as much as you can about separation anxiety in children and talk to your health care provider if you suspect a deeper problem.

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Screen for Child Anxiety Related Disorders

Childhood anxiety disorders can be traumatic in any child’s life. Parents are also affected when they see their child struggle with fears and many don’t know where to turn to get the answers they so desperately need and want. Fortunately, there are screens for childhood anxiety related disorders – some online and easy to access.

These screening methods can determine just how severe your child’s anxiety disorder might be and helps you to choose a path of treatment. You can find some screening methods online, and these might help you assess just how severe a child’s anxiety problem is.

The online screening – and some methods used by doctors – is a series of questions such as:

· When your child enters a stressful situation does he react by clinging, freezing or having a temper tantrum?

· Have you noticed a downturn in your child’s grades at school, refusal to go to school and avoidance of social activities?

· Have you noticed that your child has many unfounded fears about situations such as storms or performing in front of a group?

These types of screening devices are preliminary steps in determining if your child may be experiencing an anxiety disorder that should be treated professionally. There are also questions about how often your child may cry, feel sick, cling to you or obsess over thoughts such as you dying or becoming ill.

After screening for a childhood anxiety disorder, you and your doctor should sit down and decide what the next step will be to help your child cope. It may be as simple as learning how to calm the child and teaching him a few effective strategies for dealing with his anxiety.

Another option is to have your child work with a professional therapist who is much more skilled in how to help children rid themselves of debilitating fears and feelings of anxiety that keep them from enjoying life to the fullest.

A professional therapist may suggest group therapy for your child, which is often effective when children realise that other kids have the same feelings as them. That realisation can help them see that they’re not alone.

Although feelings of anxiety in a child isn’t life-threatening, prolonged symptoms could result in depression, obsessive compulsive disorder or other disorders that keep the child from enjoying all that life has to offer.

Approach a screen for childhood anxiety related disorder in a calm and helpful manner. In younger children, you may be able to help them look at the screening as a game, where they’re going to answer questions about how they feel. After the diagnosis, you can better determine the right course of action for your child.

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How To Achieve Excellence In Sales

Most people are always striving to better themselves. It’s the “Proper Way”. For proof, check the sales figures on the number of self-improvement books sold each year. This is not a pitch for you to jump in and start selling these kinds of books, but it is a indication of people’s awareness that in order to better themselves, they have to continue improving their personal selling abilities.

To excel in any selling situation, you must have confidence, and confidence comes, first and foremost, from knowledge. You have to know and understand yourself and your goals. You have to recognize and accept your weaknesses as well as your special talents. This requires a kind of personal honesty that not everyone is capable of exercising.

In addition to knowing yourself, you must continue learning about people. Just as with yourself, you must be caring, forgiving and laudatory with others. In any sales effort, you must accept other people as they are, not as you would like for them to be. One of the most common faults of sales people is impatience when the prospective customer is slow to understand or make a decision. The successful salesperson handles these situations the same as he would if he were asking a girl for a date, or even applying for a new job.

Learning your product, making a clear presentation to qualified prospects, and closing more sales will take a lot less time once you know your own capabilities and failings, and understand and care about the prospects you are calling upon.

Our society is predicated upon selling, and all of us are selling something all the time. We move up or stand still in direct relation to our sales efforts. Everyone is included, whether we’re attempting to be a friend to a co-worker, a neighbour, or selling multi-million pound real estate projects. Accepting these facts will enable you to understand that there is no such thing as a born salesman. Indeed, in selling, we all begin at the same starting line, and we all have the same finish line as the goal – a successful sale.

Most assuredly, anyone can sell anything to anybody. As a qualification to this statement, let us say that some things are easier to sell than others, and some people work harder at selling than others. But regardless of what you’re selling, or even how you’re attempting to sell it, the odds are in your favour. If you make your presentation to enough people, you’ll find a buyer. The problem with most people seems to be in making contact – getting their sales presentation seen by, read by, or heard by enough people. But this really shouldn’t be a problem, as we’ll explain later. There is a problem of impatience, but this too can be harnessed to work in the salesperson’s favour.

We have established that we’re all sales people in one way or another. So whether we’re attempting to move up from forklift driver to warehouse manager, waitress to hostess, salesman to sales manager or from mail order dealer to director of the largest sales organization in the world, it’s vitally important that we continue learning.

Getting up out of bed in the morning; doing what has to be done in order to sell more units of your product; keeping records, updating your materials; planning the direction of further sales efforts; and all the while increasing your own knowledge—all this very definitely requires a great deal of personal motivation, discipline, and energy. But then the rewards can be beyond your wildest dreams, for make no mistake about it, the selling profession is the highest paid occupation in the world!

Selling is challenging. It demands the utmost of your creativity and innovative thinking. The more success you want, and the more dedicated you are to achieving your goals, the more you’ll sell. Hundreds of people the world over become millionaires each month through selling. Many of them were flat broke and unable to find a “regular” job when they began their selling careers. Yet they’ve done it, and you can do it too!

Remember, it’s the surest way to all the wealth you could ever want. You get paid according to your own efforts, skill, and knowledge of people. If you’re ready to become rich, then think seriously about selling a product or service (preferably something exclusively yours) – something that you “pull out of your brain”; something that you write, manufacture or produce for the benefit of other people. But failing this, the want ads are full of opportunities for ambitious sales people. You can start there, study, learn from experience, and watch for the chance that will allow you to move ahead by leaps and bounds.

Here are some guidelines that will definitely improve your gross sales, and quite naturally, your gross income. I like to call them the Strategic Salesmanship Commandments. Look them over; give some thought to each of them; and adapt those that you can to your own selling efforts.

1. If the product you’re selling is something your prospect can hold in his hands, get it into his hands as quickly as possible. In other words, get the prospect “into the act”. Let him feel it, weigh it, admire it.

2. Don’t stand or sit alongside your prospect. Instead, face him while you’re pointing out the important advantages of your product. This will enable you to watch his facial expressions and determine whether and when you should go for the close. In handling sales literature, hold it by the top of the page, at the proper angle, so that your prospect can read it as you’re highlighting the important points.

Regarding your sales literature, don’t release your hold on it, because you want to control the specific parts you want the prospect to read. In other words, you want the prospect to read or see only the parts of the sales material you’re telling him about at a given time.

3. With prospects who won’t talk with you: When you can get no feedback to yours sales presentation, you must dramatize your presentation to get him involved. Stop and ask questions such as, “Now, don’t you agree that this product can help you or would be of benefit to you?” After you’ve asked a question such as this, stop talking and wait for the prospect to answer. It’s a proven fact that following such a question, the one who talks first will lose, so don’t say anything until after the prospect has given you some kind of answer. Wait him out!

4. Prospects who are themselves sales people, and prospects who imagine they know a lot about selling sometimes present difficult selling obstacles, especially for the novice. But believe me, these prospects can be the easiest of all to sell. Simply give your sales presentation, and instead of trying for a close, toss out a challenge such as, “I don’t know, Mr. Prospect – after watching your reactions to what I’ve been to how this product can truthfully be of benefit to you”.

Then wait a few seconds, just looking at him and waiting for him to say something. Then, start packing up your sales materials as if you are about to leave. In almost every instance, your “tough nut” will quickly ask you, Why? These people are generally so filled with their own importance, that they just have to prove you wrong. When they start on this tangent, they will sell themselves. The more skeptical you are relative to their ability to make your product work to their benefit, the more they’ll demand that you sell it to them.

If you find that this prospect will not rise to your challenge, then go ahead with the packing of your sales materials and leave quickly. Some people are so convinced of their own importance that it is a poor use of your valuable time to attempt to convince them.

5. Remember that in selling, time is money! Therefore, you must allocate only so much time to each prospect. The prospect who asks you to call back next week, or wants to ramble on about similar products, prices or previous experiences, is costing you money. Learn to quickly get your prospect interested in, and wanting your product, and then systematically present your sales pitch through to the close, when he signs on the dotted line, and reaches for his cheque book.

After the introductory call on your prospect, you should be selling products and collecting money. Any callbacks should be only for reorders, or to sell him related products from your line. In other words, you can waste an introductory call on a prospect to qualify him, but you’re going to be wasting money if you continue calling on him to sell him the first unit of your product. When faced with a reply such as, “Your product looks pretty good, but I’ll have to give some thought”, you should quickly jump in and ask him what specifically about your product does he feel he needs to give more thought. Let him explain, and that’s when you go back into your sales presentation and make everything crystal clear for him. If he still balks, then you can either tell him that you think he product will really benefit him, or it’s purchase be to his benefit.

You must spend as much time as possible calling on new prospects. Therefore, your first call should be a selling call with follow-up calls by mail or telephone (once every month or so in person) to sign him for re-orders and other items from your product line.

6. Review your sales presentation, your sales materials, and your prospecting efforts. Make sure you have a “door-opener” that arouses interest and “forces” a purchase the first time around. This can be a £2 interest stimulator so that you can show him your full line, or a special marked-down price on an item that everybody wants; but the important thing is to get the prospect on your “buying customer” list, and then follow up via mail or telephone with related, but more profitable products you have to offer.

If you accept our statement that there are no born salesmen, you can readily absorb these “commandments”. Study them, as well as all the material in this article. When you realize your first successes, you will truly know that “salesmen are MADE – not born”.


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How Supermarkets And Stores Get Us To Spend Our Money

Isn’t it amazing? For most of us, the weekly shop is just that; buy the food and supplies we need for the week. For the supermarket, or store if you’re American, it’s a major battle for them to get us to spend more more money every time we go in there. Using a vast array of proven psychological tricks, they normally succeed.

By understanding the psychological tricks they play on all consumers, we can fight back. Here’s some of the most popular tricks all stores employ to get us to part with our hard earned money.

By far, the most prevalent and annoying trick they use is to regularily move their stock – and aisles- around, making it harder for us to find the stuff we want. The common accepted psychological reason for this is simply to get us to spend more time in the store as individuals, as the longer we stay, the more we spend. Moving regular lines to different parts of the store is just one way of doing this, as we are forced to look for what we need – passing many other aisles in the process.

Eye Level Marketing - this technique is where the stores place the products with the highest profit margin at eye level. This conforms with a basic human instinct of saving time – we are apt to choose what we see first rather than physically stop and visually scan the aisles for the products we really want. Proof? The cheapest items are almost always on the lowest shelf – keeping them out of normal vision, and forcing us to physically stop and bend down to buy them when we do find them.

The Man Hater Policy – next time you’re in a store, watch out for the men. They’ll be ‘boomeranging’. Men will buy just what they want or need, they simply turn around and walk back they way they came. The boomerang. The stores countermand this by putting popular mens lines, major items, and high profit items, at the furthest point of the aisle, forcing us to walk all the way to get what we need.

Always eat before you go shopping – the stores entice us with smells of freshly baked bread to make us feel hungry as we walk around. Hungry shoppers buy more food and make the superstore more money by buying snacks, chocolate and so on at the point of sale or the checkouts so we buy even more. Whats more, the point of sale units with chocolate and sweets (candy if you’re American) are always low down – just at the right height for children to see and hassle mom or dad for a treat on the way through the checkout.

Never go shopping when you’re hungry. It’s a proven winner with the supermarkets – and a proven money loser for the consumers.

Essentials are never at the front of the store – the idea behind this is simple – it forces you to walk through the store to get what you need – and often, buying things you didn’t plan on buying on the way. Impulse purchases are very big business for all supermarkets.

The supermarkets overall strategy is simple – the longer they get us to stay in store, the more we spend. Couple that with the psychological impulse creating strategies they use while we are actually in the store makes it a surefire winner for the supermarkets – and a certain loser for the consumer.


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Clever People Prefer Cats

Clever people are more likely to own a cat as oppose to a dog, according to another one of those “recent” studies as it emerged that domestic populations of both animals has risen in the UK by eight million in 20 years.

People with degrees were found to favour cats over dogs – possibly because longer working hours leave less time to devote to a dog, according to researchers.

Like most of the modern world, cats and dogs are the most popular pets in the UK but their population estimates were last published in a scientific peer- reviewed journal in the 1980′s, at which time it was estimated that there were 6.2 million cats and 6.4 million dogs owned by the British nation.

Today, according to the paper published by the UK’s University of Bristol, there are around 10.3 million cats and 10.5 million dogs in British homes, equating to around 26 per cent of British homes owning one of these pets.


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Excuses Are for the Weak

If you’ve ever used excuses to avoid taking action on something you wanted to do, you were likely labouring under an illusion.

Excuses can seem incredibly strong and valid at times, to the point where we end up believing they are absolute truth. However, excuses can not only cause us to miss out on a few opportunities, they actually have the power to destroy our lives if we let them.

When we continually talk ourselves out of doing things we want to do, we create a powerful downward spiral of decreasing opportunities, dwindling abundance, and diminishing self-respect. Ultimately we end up being an empty shell of the person we could have been.

Don’t let your excuses destroy your life! Excuses are for weak-willed individuals who have no desire or willingness to grow and develop themselves. They have talked themselves out of creating the lives they truly want, and they will not budge from where they are right now unless a life crisis forces them to.

Is this you? Or would you rather be someone who laughs at limitations and faces their fears head on?

If you are in the habit of buying into excuses, you probably utter phrases like these often:

“I can’t . . .”
“I don’t have the talent . . .”
“I wouldn’t be strong enough . . .”
“I’m too old . . .”
“I don’t have enough time . . .”
“I don’t have the money . . .”
“I don’t have the brains . . .”
“I’m not good at . . .”
“It would be too hard . . .”
“It’s nearly impossible for someone like me . . .”

How many times have you said things like this? They are excuses, plain and simple.

Here’s the worst part: even if an excuse actually holds some merit, like if you really don’t have enough money to go back to school or start a business – the excuse itself prevents you from even TRYING or working toward the goal in some way. Just because you don’t YET have the money, time, talent, courage, or whatever . . . does not mean you won’t have it at some future time. It doesn’t mean that you can’t save up until you have it, or work on it little by little.

Here’s the good news: if you refuse to believe in excuses, they suddenly cease to be true.

Starting today, take a good hard look at your own excuses. Are they really true, or have you been fooling yourself because it seems easier than shattering the illusion?

If you question the beliefs you hold about yourself and your capabilities, you might be surprised to learn that you’ve been held hostage by excuses. But since YOU formed the excuses, you can easily dismantle them too, one step at a time, one faulty belief at a time.

When you begin doing this even in small ways, you begin to develop greater strength and empowerment within yourself, and your whole life will begin to shift and change in miraculous ways.

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Talk Less, Act More

Promise only what you can deliver. Then deliver more than you promise. – Author Unknown

Are you a big talker? Are you always rambling on about how great your achievements are, how much you’re capable of, how far you’re going to go in life? Speaking confidently about yourself and your activities is a good thing – but NOT if you’re just blowing hot air. Some people do this in an effort to build up their courage or seek approval from others. They lack a strong sense of inner security and belief about who they are and what they do (or want to do). While we can easily understand and sympathise with this temptation, we need to focus on not falling into the trap ourselves.

Rather than letting your mouth tell others who you are and what you can do, let your actions do the talking. Promise less but give more. Give WAY more. Let everything you do shout your worth to the world. In fact, you’d be surprised how much of communication is actually non-verbal. Words are only icing on the cake. It’s your countenance, your demeanor and your attitude that speak the most about you. If you blow a lot of hot air, all you do is steam up the room and create a fog that makes it difficult for people to see the genuine you. You may think this obscures the less developed parts of yourself, but most people have surprisingly good radar and can smell a façade easily.

Actions, however, tell the whole story. What you do is who you are. You are what you do. Your achievements, your energy and your character will reach out and grab the attention of those you wish to align yourself with. If you always strive to do your best in everything you do and push yourself to be not just “good” but GREAT, you will infuse your unique energy into every activity and the results you get will astound not only you but everyone you touch. Remember, a truly great person doesn’t have to say a word about their success because it’s written all over them.


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Acquire Power Through Self Development

It is the natural right of every human being to be happy to escape all the miseries of life. Happiness is the normal condition, as natural as the landscapes and the seasons. It is unnatural to suffer and it is only because of our ignorance that we do suffer. Happiness is the product of wisdom. To attain perfect wisdom, to comprehend fully the purpose of life, to realize completely the relationship of human beings to each other, is to put an end to all suffering, to escape every ill and evil that afflicts us. Perfect wisdom is unshadowed joy.

Why do we suffer in life? Because in the scheme of nature we are being forced forward in evolution and we lack the spiritual illumination that alone can light the way and enable us to move safely among the obstacles that lie before us. Usually we do not even see or suspect the presence of trouble until it suddenly leaps upon us like a concealed tiger. One day our family circle is complete and happy. A week later death has come and gone and joy is replaced with agony. Today we have a friend. Tomorrow he will be an enemy and we do not know why. A little while ago we had wealth and all material luxuries. There was a sudden change and now we have only poverty and misery and yet we seek in vain for a reason why this should be. There was a time when we had health and strength; but they have both departed and no trace of a reason appears.

Aside from these greater tragedies of life innumerable things of lesser consequence continually bring to us little miseries and minor heartaches. We most earnestly desire to avoid them but we never see them until they strike us, until in the darkness of our ignorance we blunder upon them. The thing we lack is the spiritual illumination that will enable us to look far and wide, finding the hidden causes of human suffering and revealing the method by which they may be avoided; and if we can reach illumination the evolutionary journey can be made both comfortably and swiftly.

It is as though we must pass through a long, dark room filled with furniture promiscuously scattered about. In the darkness our progress would be slow and painful and our bruises many. But if we could press a button that would turn on the electric light we could then make the same journey quickly and with perfect safety and comfort.

The old method of education was to cram the mind with as many facts, or supposed facts, as could be accumulated and to give a certain polish to the personality. The theory was that when a man was born he was a completed human being and that all that could be done for him was to load him up with information that would be used with more or less skill, according to the native ability he happened to be born with.

The theosophical idea is that the physical man, and all that constitutes his life in the physical world, is but a very partial expression of the self; that in the ego of each there is practically unlimited power and wisdom; that these may be brought through into expression in the physical world as the physical body and its invisible counterparts, which together constitute the complex vehicle of the ego’s manifestation, are evolved and adapted to the purpose; and that in exact proportion that conscious effort is given to such self-development will spiritual illumination be achieved and wisdom attained. Thus the light that leads to happiness is kindled from within and the evolutionary journey that all are making may be robbed of its suffering.

Why does death bring misery? Chiefly because it separates us from those we love. The only other reason why death brings grief or fear is because we do not understand it and comprehend the part it plays in human evolution. But the moment our ignorance gives way to comprehension such fear vanishes and a serene happiness takes its place.

Why do we have enemies from whose words or acts we suffer? Because in our limited physical consciousness we do not perceive the unity of all life and realize that our wrong thinking and doing must react upon us through other people a situation from which there is no possible escape except through ceasing to think evil and then patiently awaiting the time when the causes we have already generated are fully exhausted. When spiritual illumination comes, and we no longer stumble in the night of ignorance, the last enemy will disappear and we shall make no more forever.

Why do people suffer from poverty and disease? Only because of our blundering ignorance that makes their existence possible for us, and because we do not comprehend their meaning and their lessons, nor know the attitude to assume toward them. Had we but the wisdom to understand why they come to people, why they are necessary factors in their evolution, they would trouble us no longer. When nature’s lesson is fully learned these mute teachers will vanish.

And so it is with all forms of suffering we experience. They are all reactions from our ignorant blunderings and teachers that point out the better way. When we have comprehended the lessons they teach they are no longer necessary and disappear. It is not by the outward acquirement of facts that men become wise and great. It is by developing the soul from within until it illuminates the brain with that flood of light called genius.

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New Year Resolution

This is your life. Do what you love, and do it often.
If you don’t like something, change it.
If you don’t like your job, quit.
If you don’t have enough time, stop watching TV.
If you are looking for the love of your life, stop.They will be waiting for you when you start doing the things you love.
Sto over analysing, all emotions are beautiful.
Life is simple. Open your mind, your arms and heart to new things and people. We are united in our differences.
Ask the next person what their passion is, and share your inspiring dream with them.
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August Born Children Face Uncertain And Unhappy Futures

We’ve discussed the life importance of our birth month in some of my previous articles here, and we already know that children born in August face substantial disadvantages compared to those born earlier in the year. A new report just issued here in the UK continues to paint, and reinforce the prospect of, a bleak future for August born children.

This new study, part of a much larger study being carried out by the UK’s Institute For Fiscal Studies, involved collecting and analysing data over twenty years involving more than 3 million state school pupils, concentrating on the differences between children born in August compared to classmates born 11 months previously in September.

The differences, and August born children’s tendencies, are outstandingly bleak.

The study, after analysing the specialist data, confirms children born in August are at considerable disadvantage in respect of being more likely to be victims of bullying and suffer extreme self confidence issues. Amazingly, the study confirmed as well that August born children are more likely to leave school at the earliest possible opportunity, are more likely to smoke, both tobacco and Cannabis and binge drink than their earlier born classmates.

These traits lead onto further tendencies for August born children, in that boys are 12 per cent less likely to gain good exam results than boys born the previous September, with August born girls being 9 per cent less likely. Further trends show August babies are 20 per cent more likely to leave education as soon as possible, and 20 per cent less likely to go to university.

August children are proven by this study to have major self confidence issues in their academic ability alongside a felling of not being in control of their lives overall.

One of the studies co-authors, Clare Crawford summarised the study’s findings as proving that August born children face life long disadvantages simply because ‘ they are unlucky enough to have been born late in the school year’.

There are some natural reasons why August children are at a disadvantage compared to classmates born earlier in the year. Being younger than their classmates, they are naturally smaller than their average classmate, leading to bullying. Younger children will, naturally, struggle to keep up with their elders’ levels of mental agility and ability.

Being naturally smaller, and possibly weaker, than classmates who are virtually a year older, August children face a constant struggle in keeping up with their older classroom counterparts. Constant struggling, on a daily basis will harm the childs’ own self image, leading to a crisis in self confidence which can, and often does, last a lifetime.

Co-author Ellen Greaves concludes: ‘ It is clear that the consequences of the month in which you are born extend beyond educational attainment.

‘We find evidence that, particularly at younger ages, summer born children are more likely to report being unhappy at school and to have experienced bullying more than Autumn (Fall, if you’re American) born children.’

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Is Yoghurt The New Cure For Depression?

An amazing study which has just had it’s findings published in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy Of Sciences has suggested that the bacteria found in yoghurt could stave off depression.

Probiotics, otherwise known as the ‘good bacteria’ found in yoghurt have the potential to alter brain chemistry and could help in treating anxiety and depression related disorders according to the studies results.

Irish scientists studied mice fed on the probiotic Lacobacillusrhamnosaus who discovered the mice found fewer signs of stress, anxiety and depression related behaviour than those fed on broth.

The results also showed significantly lower levels of corticosterone, which is responsible for stress. This study is the first time a probiotic has been shown to affect brain chemistry.

Scientists report that the bacteria in the gut ‘communicate’ with the brain via a nerve called the Vagus.

Professor John Cryan of University College, Cork, said ‘These findings highlight the importance of bacteria in the communication between the gut and the brain, and prove to be useful in stress related disorders.

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Scientifically Proven – Older Brains Mean Wiser Brains

A new study recently released has proved the old adage is remarkably true: older does mean wiser. Scientists have proven that the over 55′s use their brain more efficiently than their younger counterparts, as they are much more likely to dismiss mistakes.

And whilst the over 55′s use their brains more efficiently, they take more time to come to a decision, conserving their energy.

Younger people, by contrast, give the impression of being sharper simply because they come up with the answers more quickly. But, according to researchers involved in this particular study, quickly answering and reaching rapid decisions may be a sign of inexperience.

This study, conducted by Canadian scientists, involved two groups of participants each of which were set tasks that involved sorting words into pairs, and the subject’s brains were scanned as the study was in progress. The tasks included pairing words according to category or initial letter and picking out words that rhymed.

The participants were not told what to do with the words at the start of the experiment, the game used in the experiment helped them work it out by telling them if they had made the right choice or not. Over time, the categories were changed.

The participants underwent neuro-imaging scans as they took part in the experiment which revealed extreme differences between the brains of the older and younger subjects when they made a mistake.

In the younger subjects, the error instantly activated different parts of the brain to help them decide what to do next. The older people however, in stark contrast, held back until the game restarted, only then starting to think about what they were going to do next.

The study was lead by Dr Oury Monchi, of the Institute of Geriatrics at the University of Montreal, who said :’When the young participants made a mistake and had to plan and execute a new strategy to get the right answer, various parts of their brains were recruited even before the next task began.

‘However, when the older participants learned that they had made a mistake, these regions were only recruited at the beginning of the next trial, indicating that with age, we decide to make adjustments only when absolutely necessary.’

The studies results, published in the journal Cerebral Cortex, proved that the older brain has experience and knows there is nothing to be gained by jumping the gun. The study proved we now have neurobiological evidence which proves that, with age, comes wisdom, and that as the brain gets older, it learns to better allocate it’s resources.

Dr Monchi summarised the studies findings by saying ‘Being able to run fast does not always win the race- you have to know how best to use your abilities.’

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Building Courage to Improve your Personal Life

When you build courage, you start to improve your personal life. Building courage will help you take risks to a brighter future that you ordinarily would not take. When you build courage, you put fear behind you. Courage is the process of admitting that you have fears, yet you are willing to find a way to defeat those fears and not allow these fears to take control of you. It is ok to experience your fears at appropriate times. For instance, if a bus is heading directly towards you, swerving, you have a right to be afraid. There is nothing wrong with healthy fear. The problem is you have to put healthy fear in its place and unhealthy fear out of your life.

Once you build courage, you will learn to self-direct yoursef in life. You will learn to accept punishment and rewards gracefully. A courageous person will often feel motivated to accept blame and responsibility while reviewing their actions and using what they learn to move forward. Courageous people will step to the front, rather than stepping back when opportunities come their way. On the other hand, a courageous person will step back and take a view at his or her mistakes gracefully.

Sometimes the courageous person is spontaneous. It is never good to plan each day, because no one knows what the next day will bring in. Think about it. How many times have you planned something only to see it fall apart the next day. For instance, perhaps you plan to go out tomorrow. Come tomorrow comes a blizzard, hurricane, tornado, wind storm, or rainstorm could change your mind. You planned, but did you plan for the weather. Did you make a backup plan in case your first plan failed? As you can see, planning is not always in your favour, which is why courageous people are sometimes spontaneous.

A person willing to improve their life will relax. This person will relax even when plans fail. For instance,if plans fall apart, that person will find something else to occupy his or her time and feel just as happy about joining this adventure.

To become successful and improve your life you will need to learn how to trust yourself. When you trust yourself, you can trust others as well. Unfortunately, we live in a world where trust is hard to find, yet when you trust yourself, you can’t blame others when things go wrong.

Improving your life includes using your creative and critical mind. When you can create new ideas, you are starting on the road to success. You have many options in this world, it takes you, yourself, to pull up resources to find those options.

Sometimes in life, we feel uncomfortable. In fact, this is common. Are you willing to accept your discomforts? Perhaps at an interview you feel misplaced. You must be willing to accept this discomfort and find a way to deliver a good speech to impress the interviewer. Alternatively, you will allow negative energies to cost you the job.

Do you accept?
Do you accept the things you cannot change? Do you accept the things you have control over? Do you accept other people regardless of how these people act? Do you accept you for who you are? Do you accept the changes that life brings your way?

Acceptance is your key to happiness. When you can learn to accept the good with the bad, you can learn how to live happier and improve your personal life. That. automatically, gives you a longer, happier life.

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